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As Christmas comes around once again, things can get pretty hectic for any parent. But the random routines this time of year are even more difficult if you have a child with autism spectrum disorder (ASD).
Christmas crowds, lights, smells and lack of routine can make the holidays a challenging time for children with ASD and they can be left feeling unsettled. It will never be easy but with a few good techniques and enough preparation, you can enjoy Christmas with your family.
We talked to some parents of children with ASD to get some tried and tested tips to embrace Christmas this year:
The change in routine can be tricky and it’s sometimes difficult to get your child up and off to school when they know it’s going to be another stressful day.
Some parents use an advent calendar as encouragement; – the child can only open the door when they’re ready to leave in the morning. Advent calendars are also great for channelling children’s excitement as they count down the days to Christmas.
A fabulous Advent Calendar that will delight any Harry Potter fan is the Harry Potter Magical Infinity Advent Calendar.
It truly is magical with its unique moving design. The two towers both rotate fully, by 360 degrees, revealing hidden drawers, from which you will conjure up an exclusive Harry Potter gift for each day of December, leading up to Christmas day.
Consider using a visual calendar to map out the one-off events, trips and family gatherings in the festive season.
Talking through the day beforehand can help too – where you will be going, what you will be doing – and if you can, show them photos as well. It helps to have a plan B (and C!) in case they have trouble coping with the new environment.
It’s worth checking whether or not your child wants to be part of their school nativity and bringing it up with the school.
It can help to make sure that there’s a plan in case your child needs a break, so they can go next door for a little while away from the hustle and bustle of rehearsals.
Putting your child in charge of something that seems important can help by making them feel really involved in the preparations. Giving them something to do can reduce their stress about having lots of people in the house.
Try to also introduce changes into their environment gradually, starting with the Christmas lights for (supervised) sensory play.
When it comes to Christmas day, look for games your child can join in with, if they want to. Open-ended games where there is no pressure to win, and no right or wrong answers, are a good way to go as they are ‘just for fun’.
Rory’s Story Cubes is a simple and creative game that your child can dip in and out of. It’s very adaptable to each player because the stories you tell using the dice can be as simple or as complex as the storyteller wants them to be.
Social gatherings are noisy and can result in sensory overload. Talk to family members and friends ahead of time to discuss your child’s specific needs, and gently but firmly tell them what your plans are.
Be sure to let them know that this will make the whole experience better for everyone. Ask for their support if you need it – they will be willing to help!
Being at home can make life easier because your child can escape to their room, but when you visit friends and family it might help to plan a quiet area for your child to use instead.
Most family and friends will know what to expect and will be understanding. But try to remind them beforehand that your child might need a break, just so they don’t feel awkward or take it personally when he or she isn’t playing Christmas games with the rest of the group.
You could take along their favourite distraction toys, whether that’s a tablet and headphones, or perhaps something sensory.
Playfoam Pluffle is a perfect distraction for children who love a bit of tactile stimulation. The colourful, feel-good fluffy stuff never dries out and comes in a handy tube to take along with you.
A lot of us, when we receive a gift we don’t want, will put on a smile and say thank you anyway.
This social aspect of gift giving can be very hard for children with ASD; they can be very vocal when they don’t like their gift, or think someone else’s is better than theirs. Try using role play to practise giving and receiving presents gracefully to prepare for this.
Helping and encouraging your child to give gifts also provides an excellent opportunity to work on social skills. For example, thinking of other people’s needs and interests, and being kind and helpful.
Christmas day dinner is another minefield if your child is a selective eater or has food intolerances.
Be prepared to plan around what they can and can’t eat, possibly cooking them a separate meal, even if it’s chicken nuggets! The most important thing is that they enjoy it too.
Some aspects of the Father Christmas tale – like a bearded man climbing down the chimney in the middle of the night – might be confusing or even scary if taken literally.
When you read Christmas stories before bed, consider tweaking the story slightly – so your child can still enjoy the magic of Santa in their own way.
Some children with ASD are unnerved by surprises of any kind, and that includes presents.
If you know that yours is likely to spend the build up to Christmas worrying about whether they will or won’t get what they really want, then it’s worth doing their shopping well in advance and just letting them know it’s fine.
And if you can’t get what they want, it gives you time to persuade them that an alternative is acceptable. But be prepared for your carefully chosen gifts to go down like a lead balloon!
Family and friends may also need some guidance on what presents to give your child,
Staying relaxed and low-key is one of the best things you can do to keep your child’s behavior in line and help them manage with all of the strange events and routines during the festive season.
Doing your best to save the tantrum (yours!) for when they have gone to bed can help everyone be a little calmer this Christmas.
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